The Importance of Routine in Kids Life

One of the most important things that you can do to make your child feel safe is to establish a. Children tend to feel secure when their lives are predictable. When adults provide environments that feel safe, children learn that they can trust others to take care of them and meet their needs, so they become free to relax and explore their world.

Young children do not fully understand the concept of time, but they do so by recognizing events and what order they happen in. When events happen in the same order every day, children have a better understanding of their world, and therefore feel more secure.  A regular schedule gives children a way to order and organize their lives. When young children know what to expect, they become more confident in themselves. They know they will not be confronted with unfamiliar tasks that they are for which they are unprepared.

A young child’s brain is still undergoing major development, especially the part of the brain that allows us to plan ahead. A routine helps kids practice making these simple predictions, as well as understand concepts such as “before and after.”  Routines help children develop self-control; they know they have to wait until a certain time to do a particular activity. A regular schedule fosters responsibility and independence.

A routine is important during particularly difficult times of day, such as bedtime or getting dressed in the morning. When there is a routine in place, there can be little argument, the expectations for behaviour are established. Therefore, you will cut down on stress for yourself. Keeping to a routine may sound like an impossible task when you are overwhelmed with balancing a constantly changing schedule for multiple members of your household. However, even implementing the smallest routine can make a big difference. Here are 5 ideas to help start a routine in your home:

  1. Plan at least one meal per day that you have together as a family. This meal does not have to be dinner; even a 15-minute breakfast where everyone gets to share their plans for the day can be effective. During your family time, turn off all devices and stay away from distractions. This small routine allows children to take responsibility, even for something small, such as carrying the silverware to the table.
  2. Have a bedtime ritual, which will help children slowly calm down, and allow them to associate certain activities with getting sleepy. Think about what calms your child. Is it taking a bath? Reading a story? Listening to soft music? Always do the bedtime preparation in the same order, and ask your child questions such as, “What do we do after we put on our pajamas?”  This part of the routine not only helps children with memory, time orientation, and language skills, and what better way to show you care then finding out about what they did that day.
  3. Include preparation for transitions in the routine. For example, say, “We have 10 minutes left before we start getting ready for bed. When the big hand gets to the 12, it will be time to put on your pajamas.”
  4. Work together to make visuals that indicate each thing if your routine, put the pictures in order on a colourful sheet of paper, and hang the finished product in your child’s room. You will not only be helping build creativity in your child, but you will also promote self-sufficiency. Your child given time will be able to look at the pictures to identify what step comes next.
  5. Although routine is very important, remember not be too rigid. Children need to learn how be flexible and deal with minor changes. If there is an interruption to the routine, tell your child, “I know we usually do x, but today we are going to do y because (reason). Tomorrow we will go back to our usual schedule.” If most of their day is predictable, young children will be able to deal with small changes, especially if they are prepared for the changes and see you modeling calm behaviour as you deal with problems that occur.

It is never too late to start a routine or even change something. Set a good example for your child by saying, “The way that we have been doing things has not been working. We are going to try something new. Here is our new schedule.” While you should definitely be open to the fact that the schedule may need some adjustment, you also need to be firm in sticking to the new routine. At first, your child might try to get you to break the new routine, but do not give in. Young children need both consistency and limits.  Know that your child will have difficulty adjusting, and be prepared with how you will handle this resistance.

The earlier that you begin to order your child’s life, the easier it will be. When you stick to a routine, you teach your child how to arrange her time in a manner that is efficient, productive, and cuts down on stress. This sense of order is not only important for making your young child feel secure at this moment, but it will also allow your child to internalize an automatic sense of how to organize their own life as they grows up.

 by: Education.com

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